Best Life Therapy Blogs - Grief, Anxiety, Stress & More
- posted: Feb. 08, 2025
Do you dread going to work each day? Does it seem like the work never ends? So many people are faced with unmanageable workloads these days. Some people are fortunate enough to work from home with flexible schedules and receive unlimited paid time off, but this is not the case for most people.
Many of the stressors associated with work are things we have no control over. If you find yourself stressed by something you have no control over, check out the blog post on our website titled, "The Let Them Theory." That theory might be tricky to apply in all situations especially at work but there are probably times during which it could help.
When dealing with internal stress, we might need to pause and ask ourselves, "what can we do about it?" If the stress will truly help you do your job some amount of short-term stress isn't always harmful. It's the prolonged stress that's bad for us. Learning to reframe our self-talk, relax and calm ourselves is important. We make better decisions when we are calm. The need for perfectionism is a common internal stressor that impacts so many people. When we find ourselves wondering what others are going to think about us, it is stressful. That kind of worry makes it hard to remain focused. Some workplace cultures don't focus on employee wellness in a way that is actually helpful to employees. There are some that unintentionally promote being overly busy and quickly shut down any conversations about the subject matter with employees rather than addressing the problem.
In reality, a lot of our stress at work is external, which refers to things we have no control over. People often report things like unexpected projects, last minute deadlines, being on their feet all day, dealing with the behaviors or attitudes of others. More and more places are asking employees to do the job of more than one person. I'm sure some of you have heard " (insert your name here) .... can you do just one more thing?" If only we had a $1.00 for every time we thought, "no, I actually cannot do one more thing because of all the other one more things you told me to do!" Hopefully, you are filtering those thoughts if you have them. Obviously, it is our responsibility as an employee to do our job but there may be times when the workload is a bit much. It can take a toll on our physical health and our mental health. We actually have a blog post on that too! There is a connection between the two things.
Sometimes people pleasing can be a characteristic that gets in our way. As we strive to please all people, we begin to behave as though we can do all things and that is just not the case for anyone. This can create resentment in ourselves when we feel like others are not carrying their fair share of the responsibilities. Imposter syndrome is another culprit that can rear its ugly head in the workplace. When this happens, we are constantly feeling like we are not good enough. This is another opportunity to apply the "let them theory." When we stop worrying about what others think, and stop judging ourselves so harshly, we can improve our focus and actually get our job done.
Doing things that are proactive to manage stress rather than being reactive is important. Reframe those negative thoughts, try to put yourself in the employer's shoes and see if that helps. Help them come up with solutions to help the company if you are overworked. Use relaxation techniques when you can and be kind to yourself.
If it's colleagues contributing to your stress, keep in mind that discord between employees is normal especially in high stress environments. You might need to respectfully set boundaries with a co-worker and advocate for what you do need. Avoid talking bad about co-workers with other employees. Take a break when you are stressed and pause challenging conversations until you are not as stressed. Embrace the pause rather than sending a heated email and cc'ing everyone in the company. Take time to breathe first, walk away from it for a few minutes or maybe even sleep on it. Often times, a good night's rest is all we need to put things in perspective. Before bed, try using a 5-minute meditation on work stress using the Insight Time app.
When you pull in the driveway when you arrive home, try to leave the work stress out in the car. Setting boundaries with work hours is important. Being able to switch it off in our minds can be tricky but it's incredibly important. Sometimes we need a mental health day. There is nothing wrong with that especially if you are dealing with insomnia, headaches, stomach aches or physical issues that could be stress related. Using those personal days to take care of you can help you avoid needing the sick days.
Sometimes we need help with managing work stress and that is okay. We are currently hiring more clinicians to better serve you and are accepting new clients. If you are a new client and would like to schedule your first appointment, just click the request an appointment button in the first page of this website. We look forward to seeing you! Remember that work is only one part of your life. You deserve time and space to enjoy life.... which is what I'm about to do! Make it a great day if you can. If you feel like you need help with that, reach out to Best Life Therapy. We are happy to help you!
- posted: Feb. 08, 2025
Do you dread going to work each day? Does it seem like the work never ends? So many people are faced with unmanageable workloads these days. Some people are fortunate enough to work from home with flexible schedules and receive unlimited paid time off, but this is not the case for most people.
Many of the stressors associated with work are things we have no control over. If you find yourself stressed by something you have no control over, check out the blog post on our website titled, "The Let Them Theory." That theory might be tricky to apply in all situations especially at work but there are probably times during which it could help.
When dealing with internal stress, we might need to pause and ask ourselves, "what can we do about it?" If the stress will truly help you do your job some amount of short-term stress isn't always harmful. It's the prolonged stress that's bad for us. Learning to reframe our self-talk, relax and calm ourselves is important. We make better decisions when we are calm. The need for perfectionism is a common internal stressor that impacts so many people. When we find ourselves wondering what others are going to think about us, it is stressful. That kind of worry makes it hard to remain focused. Some workplace cultures don't focus on employee wellness in a way that is actually helpful to employees. There are some that unintentionally promote being overly busy and quickly shut down any conversations about the subject matter with employees rather than addressing the problem.
In reality, a lot of our stress at work is external, which refers to things we have no control over. People often report things like unexpected projects, last minute deadlines, being on their feet all day, dealing with the behaviors or attitudes of others. More and more places are asking employees to do the job of more than one person. I'm sure some of you have heard " (insert your name here) .... can you do just one more thing?" If only we had a $1.00 for every time we thought, "no, I actually cannot do one more thing because of all the other one more things you told me to do!" Hopefully, you are filtering those thoughts if you have them. Obviously, it is our responsibility as an employee to do our job but there may be times when the workload is a bit much. It can take a toll on our physical health and our mental health. We actually have a blog post on that too! There is a connection between the two things.
Sometimes people pleasing can be a characteristic that gets in our way. As we strive to please all people, we begin to behave as though we can do all things and that is just not the case for anyone. This can create resentment in ourselves when we feel like others are not carrying their fair share of the responsibilities. Imposter syndrome is another culprit that can rear its ugly head in the workplace. When this happens, we are constantly feeling like we are not good enough. This is another opportunity to apply the "let them theory." When we stop worrying about what others think, and stop judging ourselves so harshly, we can improve our focus and actually get our job done.
Doing things that are proactive to manage stress rather than being reactive is important. Reframe those negative thoughts, try to put yourself in the employer's shoes and see if that helps. Help them come up with solutions to help the company if you are overworked. Use relaxation techniques when you can and be kind to yourself.
If it's colleagues contributing to your stress, keep in mind that discord between employees is normal especially in high stress environments. You might need to respectfully set boundaries with a co-worker and advocate for what you do need. Avoid talking bad about co-workers with other employees. Take a break when you are stressed and pause challenging conversations until you are not as stressed. Embrace the pause rather than sending a heated email and cc'ing everyone in the company. Take time to breathe first, walk away from it for a few minutes or maybe even sleep on it. Often times, a good night's rest is all we need to put things in perspective. Before bed, try using a 5-minute meditation on work stress using the Insight Time app.
When you pull in the driveway when you arrive home, try to leave the work stress out in the car. Setting boundaries with work hours is important. Being able to switch it off in our minds can be tricky but it's incredibly important. Sometimes we need a mental health day. There is nothing wrong with that especially if you are dealing with insomnia, headaches, stomach aches or physical issues that could be stress related. Using those personal days to take care of you can help you avoid needing the sick days.
Sometimes we need help with managing work stress and that is okay. We are currently hiring more clinicians to better serve you and are accepting new clients. If you are a new client and would like to schedule your first appointment, just click the request an appointment button in the first page of this website. We look forward to seeing you! Remember that work is only one part of your life. You deserve time and space to enjoy life.... which is what I'm about to do! Make it a great day if you can. If you feel like you need help with that, reach out to Best Life Therapy. We are happy to help you!
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